20 questions you can ask a new friend

Ok – now I got a new friend. What should I say to them?

I think we all have had that question spinning our mind, when we got a friend request or meet someone for the first time.

Know that award moment where you don’t have a single thing to say or ask a person you just met?

Our friend-maker-service to the rescue. Here you have 20 questions to ask a new friend that can start a longer conversation.

20 questions you can ask a new friend

1: Where did you grow up?

2: What do you like to do for fun? What do you enjoy?

3: What are your favorite TV shows?

4: What’s your family like? Do you have brothers or sisters?

5: What kind of music do you like?

6: What’s the highlight of your week?

7: What new things have you been enjoying lately?

8: What is one thing you’ve always wanted to do?

9: What’s your favorite movie you watched recently?

10: What are you looking forward to this week or weekend?

11: What is the best dessert you’ve ever had?

12:  If you could be one of the superheroes, who would you be?

13: Which is your favorite restaurant? What is your favorite dish to order?

14: Do you have a pet?

15: What is the best trip you ever took?

16: What are 5 things you couldn’t live without?

17: What are you most proud of?

18: What’s your favorite way to spend a day off?

19: What are your hobbies, and how did you get into them?

20: What song always gets you out on the dance floor?

 

Here you have it. 20 questions that can start a conversation, and where you can also answer by telling your favorite or experience.

Maybe you find that your new friend and you have a lot more in common than you think.


I ♥️ dogs, you ♥️ dogs – Let’s be friends

We say that at common interest is a good start for a friendship. But how much do you really need to have in common?

❤️ dogs, you ❤️ dogs - Let's be friends

Jessica is a big dog lover. She has Max. A golden retriever of 5 years with the most beautiful eyes and the biggest love for Jessica.

Jessica and Max loves:

  • Long walks several times a day
  • Playing at the beach near their house
  • Toss sticks and balls
  • Play hide and seek
  • Agility

Amber is also a big dog lover. Her dogs name is Coco. A Shih-Tzu that hold her age of 12 very nice. When Amber is home, Coco is always by her side.

Amber and Coco loves:

  • A short walk in the park in the afternoon
  • Sitting on the veranda talking while Coco gets her fur groomed
  • Taking a nap together
  • Going on a bike ride – Coco majestically seated in the bike basket
  • Practice tricks like giving paw, playing dead and dancing

 

Jessica and Amber are two completely different dog lovers.

But they have one big thing in common:

They LOVE dogs!

And that can be the start of a beautiful friendship. They can tell and show each other how they are dog lovers, what they enjoy doing with their furry friend, share good experiences, give each other tips and tricks and by being friends they will see and learn that this shared interest can be carried out in so many varieties.

 

You don’t need to be two peas in pot to make great friends, and in the “We Are Friends” community, we help create connections between likeminded people who might only share a single interest…

But that single thing can be the solid foundation of a lifelong friendship. Join us today and find out for yourself

”Moooom! Can I share this picture of you?”

“What if I share a wrong picture, do I have to go to jail?”

That was the phrase I heard the most, when I started working with social media and people with developmental disabilities

Social media is not an easy ride for everyone.



Especially when it comes to sharing text, video, and images on the internet and especially on social media, our audience struggle to assess, if they are doing the right thing.

When I started working with social media for people with developmental disabilities, the phrase I heard the most was: “What if I share something that is wrong, and I have to go to jail for it?”

It was back in the winter of 2018, when the death video from Morocco made headlines and a number of fines and prison sentences were handed out. During the same period, a number of cases with sex videos were shared worldwide as a wildfire, and the fraud cases against people with developmental disabilities was growing.

Back in 2018 that meant - and it still means - that everyone knows a story about someone who had an unpleasant and unfortunate experiences on the internet and especially on social media.

There are so many rules about what you are allowed to share on social media and what you are not, and it can be difficult to know if you are sharing something you are not allowed to. The rules are not even the same in all countries. Therefore, it can be difficult to behave properly, and it all boils down to the fact, that YOU should feel safe online.

The same rules online as offline

The norms and rules that we live by in the physical world, are the same that we apply in the digital reality, and they are just as important to learn, know and remember as traffic regulations, queue culture and good table manners.

The better safe than sorry list

 

Feel free to share text, video or pictures of:

  • your face
  • yourself with clothes on
  • yourself in your swimsuit
  • your experiences (e.g., from trips and holidays you are on)
  • your pets
  • your things (but never share your address. Thieves can easily find you!)
  • food and drinks
  • flowers and nature
  • public places (e.g., from the Zoo, a museum, a park, lookout points, etc.)
  • your family and friends, but you have to ask them for permission, before sharing a photo of them.

 

Share text, video and pictures that:

  • tell a story about you and your life, that you want the world to see
  • is showing something, you want to tell the world

If you are ever in doubt whether to share an image on the internet, don’t do it. Your doubts are often a great guideline for knowing whether or not to share.


Always look at what you want to share and think about: is anybody going to be sad to see that picture of themselves? If yes, don’t share.

 

Do NOT share text, video or pictures of:

  • you or others without any clothes on
  • other people who have not agreed to you sharing their picture (this is called “consent”, and it means that they are ok with you sharing pictures, video and text, showing or mentioning them)
  • portrait photos of others (from a yearbook or similar)
  • other people’s misfortune, sorrow, grief, or accident
  • violence
  • sex and porn
  • animal cruelty
  • religious acts (e.g., people who pray)

 

A good rule to remember

Would you say, write or show it to your grandmother? If not, you probably shouldn’t share it online either.

 

We have built a Guardian support feature in the »We are Friends« App

It means that you, as a guardian, can support, help and overlook that everything is ok when your child is a member of the community.

The guardian account can be done in the registration or added later on, the options is always available.

 

Safety matters

In fact, our member’s safety is our highest priority. Adding a guardian is not the only way we protect our members; we have several layers of safety around our members as you can see here.

The »We are Friends« App is built as a safe and secure place to be. We know that the scammers are out there, we know they see our audience as an easy target and we do everything we can to keep them away from our community. Continuously, we built our safety net stronger and stronger.

Have questions about We are Friends? 
Of course! Feel free to send us a message right here

Interest is much more than something you have – it’s the core of everything we do in the App

I want you to meet Paul. Because Paul is such a great example of who one of our member-types is, and how he benefits from being a part of our online community.

Interest is much more than something you have – it’s the core of everything we build in the »We are Friends« App

I want you to meet Paul. Because Paul is such a great example of who one of our user-types is, and how he benefits from being a part of our online community.

Paul tells us his interest when he signs up in the »We Are Friends« App. The selections of interest will be the “friend and group finder” for Paul.

We suggest friends and groups that share the same interest, is in his area and within a certain age span. Our algorithm always starts with the interest and after that it adds more and more parameters to the search for friends and activities for Paul.

Of course Paul can do his own search based on all the interest and groups we will have in the app.

“We believe that joining a community/a group that shares your interest (small or big) is the best way to learn, develop, participate, enjoy, and engage. Having a mutual foundation helps ensure a successful experience from the beginning."

Starting a conversation with your shared interest of fishing, knitting, favorite music or something as small as a favorite tv show, gives you a good start and something to talk about and it takes away the pressure when meeting new friends online.
 
Let’s take an example
Let’s say that you enjoy baking like Paul. In the App, you click on the baking-icon and up comes a list of all the people in the app who enjoy baking.
 
Paul could start a conversation with a fellow baker with a: “What is your favorite thing to bake?” or “Are you baking cakes or bread?”, and instantly we have a conversation going, that goes so much easier than small talk. Small talk can be very hard to do – because Paul doesn’t know what his first question should be.
 
Talking about his baking is a completely different thing. Because he has something to put into that conversation.
 
Noticing and highlighting true similarities will not only make us feel more comfortable reaching out to others, it will also help us to be authentic and real. And that my friend, increases the chances of starting a good friendship.
 
Not just a friendship builder – it’s a good life builder

In the App Paul meets friends who shares his interests, and he joins partner groups who provides information, knowledge, activity, and events, that fits his interest and motivation.

Now he can get education, life learning lessons and be a part of different groups that teach him about baking, fishing, horseback riding or a group that has a Christmas activity in December.

We believe that joining a community/a group that shares your interest (small or big) is the best way to learn, develop, participate, enjoy, and engage.

Having a mutual foundation helps ensure a successful experience from the beginning.

We build the »We are Friends« App centered around interest, because it is much more than just something you have or do. It’s something you can use as an active asset and it grows and evolves with you the more you do it, the more you learn, and train and it grows even bigger and stronger when you do it with someone who shares that interest.

The team and I are ready to launch the »We are Friends« App on 30th of July 2021. Personally, I can’t wait to welcome our users and get to know them and their interests. We might share an interest or two.

 

I’m ready to welcome you all in our community!

All my best

Signe Naessing

Founder CEO

The gift of communicating – even if you can’t say anything

You dream of going on that fishing trip because you’ve never tried standing on that boat. Not even once.

Imagine that your big interest is fishing. You dream of being on a fishing boat and pulling one big fish out of the ocean after the other.

On TV and YouTube, you watch all there is about fishing, you have posters with fish on the walls of your room, and you look at the pictures in books about fishing.

You dream of going on that fishing trip because you’ve never tried standing on that boat. Not even once.

You are lonely, your best friend is your support person, and she/he is not really interested in fishing. You don’t know anyone who shares your interest. Not anybody you can talk to or show your pictures from your book.

Online or on social media you have tried to connect with others, but you’re not that great with words. Others struggle to understand you and you don’t write that well.

Maybe you wouldn’t call it great or real communication, but for our users, it can make a world of difference.

This scenario is the reality for many of our users

In fact, a similar situation is what gave our founder Signe the idea for »We Are Friends«. You can read the whole story right here

In the »We Are Friends« app, we strive for EVERYONE to have an opportunity to communicate in a form that suits them.

In the App our users communicate by video, pictures, audio or in writing. They can even use our preset sentences to describe how they feel, what they are doing, what makes them happy or sad, what they dream of and so much more.

Maybe you wouldn’t call it great or real communication, but for our users, it can make a world of difference. All of a sudden, they can tell others about their lives. Send photos and videos to friends they’ve made online themselves, tell their story on their profile page and show the world that they exist.

That’s an opportunity many of them didn’t have before. Can you imagine how good it would make them feel?

We give them a voice– even if they can’t say anything.

Right now, the team and I are putting all the pieces together and getting ready to launch the »We Are Friends« app July 30th, 2021. We can’t wait to welcome all our new friends in the app.
 

I will see you inside the community

All my best

Signe Naessing

Founder CEO

You can’t be social online if you can’t talk

We launched our beta-version of the friendship app in Denmark summer last year. It really was a beta-version. 

The users could talk with each other by pictures, audio and video messages. They could post on their profile page and they could find new friends based on interests. And that was pretty much it.

But it worked! And the users were very active finding new friends, communicate and posting pictures from their everyday life on their profile page.

During that time we were out presenting the app in many different places; festivals, sports events, activity days, schools and much more.

One day a mother and her son came up to talk to me. The place where the son was living, there were some, how already have joined the app, and she was curious about how the app worked.

I asked if her son should join too. “No” she said and continued “he can’t read and write, and he can’t talk very much so he can’t be social in an app””.

And that is the whole point of the app. Giving a space where you can be social, find new friends how share the same interest as you and communicate with them in a form that suits you – no matter how good or bad you read or write.

We ended up getting her son in the app. She told me, that he was a huge fan of cruise ships. And we made a video with him to his profile-page, where he was smiling and wavering to his new friends.

I sent out a message to all our superusers (superusers are our brand ambassadors who welcome the new users in the app, help them if needed and they also have a moderator role, so they also are one of our safety measures), telling them that this new user really enjoyed  cruise ships, and if they saw any, sent one his way.

And they did. And when they did, they got a video back from him smiling or laughing while making his “happy sound”.

And they did. And when they did, they got a video back from him smiling or laughing while making his “happy sound”.

After a few months I meet his mother again. She told that her son has changed. Changed to a so happier young man. That he was grown so much because he now has friends he has got on his own. Friends that where thinking of him when they saw a cruise ship and took their time to take a picture and sent it to him.

She also told me that he was practiced diligently to be able to say “Thank you” in a way that you as receiver could understand and that he enthusiastically showed her his new friends and the pictures and videos he got them.

For you and me, it may not be great communication. But for this young man, it has meant a world of difference.

And that’s what we’re working on with the friendship app »We are Friends«. Day after day. Giving a voice to those who do not have one, so that they can find new friends to talk to – even if the talk is not in the same way as you and me talking.

Launching in spring 2021

The »We are Friends« App is expected to be launched for IOS and Android in early summer 2021. The App is currently in development.

We want to give this special audience a voice. We want to give them their life and hope back, to make friends and become less lonely so they have a safe place to go during this crazy pandemic and beyond.

It all started that day …

It all started that day …

I met Peter.

Peter is developmentally disabled. He lives together with 30 others who also have a developmental disability.

I was so lucky to be invited to visit Peter in his new apartment. When I walked in, it was like I stepped into a big dream of fishing. All the walls were covered with posters of fish,fishing and fishing gear and there were piles of books and magazines all about fish and fishing.

 

Peter told me that he watched all the shows about fishing on TV and that he dreamt of standing on a fishing boat pulling one big fish out of the sea after another.

“I look at all the pictures in my books and magazines and then I dream,” he said and struck out with his arms against the stack of books and continued “I can’t read many words, but I can spell cod”.

 

I asked Peter how often he was on a fishing trip. He answered that he had never been on a fishing boat but that he had been to a lake 4 times.

 

Peter is 40 years old and does not have many friends, and those that he has are not in the least bit interested in fishing. Peter’s best friend is his contact educator. And they have tried to get Peter in some online groups about fishing, but because Peter needs help to read and write. He is dependent on the contact educator to keep the online communication going. But often, there is no time to help Peter with his reading and writing. Communication dies out quickly and Peter is once again without a community around his greatest interest.

 

Peter’s story hurt my heart. The idea of being completely alone and not having someone to share what you are most passionate about, what you dream so strongly about, was almost unbearable.

 

I thought to myself, “We have to do something, so that Peter can go fishing!”

And right there in Peter’s apartment, the idea for the friendship app came up.

Here, Peter could be able to meet others with the same great interest in fishing. It could be in his local area, or it could be from other places in the country. They should communicate with video and audio messages and Peter could also have the opportunity to find out what’s going on in sports, music, events, teaching, etc. in his local area that might be of interest to him

Maybe he could even find a new friend in his local area who also loves fishing. Maybe they could even go fishing together on a fishing boat, pulling one big fish out of the sea after another.

The first interest I wrote on the very first piece of paper about the app was: Fishing.

Loneliness and absence

Our mission with We Are Friends is to reduce the loneliness of people with intellectual and developmental disabilities.

It deeply touches us that people who are challenged for various reasons do not quite have the same conditions for making friendships that make us functionally healthy.

Traveling around the world / everyday life can be confusing and difficult for many, so physically meeting others can be a challenge. Loneliness and the absence of being together are many everyday and we would like to change that.

Our friendship app allows people with intellectual and developmental disabilities to find friends online through community of interest. It is a good starting point for making friendships, which hopefully can go on and become an offline friendship.

“Since there are many in the user group who have read and write difficulties, we have deliberately chosen to communicate with video and audio messages so that everyone can join. And of course our activity in the app is also through sound and images. It is important to us that users come to know us who are behind, so that we can clearly show that we are real people and not just a machine”


Our goal is to make the app as active as possible so that video messages with action requests will come from us to help users get active. It’s just more fun to talk to some people – instead of just saying something yourself.

It is a goal for us that our friendship app can have an impact on users’ everyday lives and can contribute to better quality of life and sense of belonging with others. That it is actually going to make a difference.

The communication between users is one to one communication. The friendships are only made when the applicant and the applicant for friendship have both indicated that they would like to be friends. They then have the opportunity to communicate and get to know each other better, for the benefit of each other.

We show that it is easy to just facilitate the framework, and then users will probably have to create the content themselves. It is not our job to instruct them in what to think, say, think and do. We believe that we create the best base, so the friendship magic comes from it.

We know, and know, the importance of friends and we sincerely believe that everyone is entitled to it. We hope our app can reduce the number of lonely people with intellectual and developmental disabilities.

Something to talk about

Some of us found it difficult to talk about nothing. What you call small-talk or nice-talk.

We don’t quite know how to get started on a conversation without topic. And at the same time you have to signal that you want to be in contact with others, that you are interested and that you are an exciting person.

And when we finally get together to ask an unknown person something, it almost seems like an assault, because we’ve warmed up to that question for so long that we throw it out with all the power we have, without so much as a warming introductory word.

Often you end up standing there alone and stepping over your toes, because you are actually sending a completely wrong signal to the outside world. A signal that one is not one that is contactable. And that is often completely wrong. Because you stand there and use all your energy and profits to be the opposite – you just don’t know how to attack it.

Imagine a conversation – a conversation where it is just that one party of the conversation talks only about a topic that only interests this person or where it is about convincing the other that you know a lot about this particular topic .

The time in such a conversation stops, and if you are one of the “uncontactable”, then it is a journey as a hostage in a subject you do not even know how to get out of – or for that matter should be able to invite in.

Often one also feels stupid compared to the other. Because you don’t necessarily know so much about photography, drone flying, fly fishing, pearl knitting or anything quite fifth. Because you have never had the interest.

A sincere and good conversation is one where both parties have the opportunity to talk and to listen. To invite, to meet, to see and view from multiple angles, to be allowed to agree to disagree.

But you do not get such a conversation if you have become hostage in the drone flight – about which you know nothing.

But what if you have a common interest to talk about? Doesn’t it look completely different to us “uncontactable”?

Well you can believe it does. Because then we can bid, then we have value, then we know something. If the interest is shared then we can meet in the conversation. And if, for a start, you have a common interest to talk about, then you are already well underway.

A friendly mission

At We Are Friends, our desire is to make life more fun, easier and full of self-help for people with intellectual and developmental disabilities.

We believe in a better world and we are working to make a difference.

It’s part of We Are Friends’ mission to work with the heart and do something extra for others. We do this quite literally by giving part of our profits to friendship initiatives and ideas that can create good relationships both online and offline. And it is in our DNA that we are socially responsible in every way. Our motivation and motivation for making our friendship app

Help make a difference when it comes to breaking down loneliness.
We want to be the loving push in the back, which can give confidence and courage to be able to self communicate in a simple way that works for everyone, could bring the joy of “togetherness” even if you live at one end of the country and therefore only meet online
Being able to find friends for yourself based on a common interest and being able to give part of our profits to friendship initiatives and ideas that can create good relationships offline.

The goal is to offer people with intellectual and developmental disabilities a way to create new friendships and maintain relationships in a way that works for them and in a form that originates from their own desires.

Best regards

We are friends ♥